My Approach to Therapy
The terms “psychotherapy” and “therapist” can seem somewhat cold and clinical. During my graduate work, Dr. Geoffrey Buckley, one of the fine professors I learned from and trained under, commented on this, and said that he sees our role better defined as a “relationship expert.” I agree with him completely. You may have heard from so-called “relationship experts” in the media; you may consider yourself or someone you know somewhat of an expert in relationships. No doubt some individuals merit this title, but many don’t. I believe that the best MFTs approach their work, at least in part, as true relationship experts, based on their specialized training and experience.
Relationships are a dominant presence in each person’s life; people are meant to be relational. The relationships we remember from the past, experience in the present, and anticipate in the future are perhaps the most influential force in shaping who we are. I believe there are three types of relationships that therapy can foster health in - a person’s relationship with himself or herself, a person’s relationships with other people, and, for people of faith, a person’s relationship with God. For many people, there is no better gift that could be received than a healthier relationship in these areas. This is why I believe working with an MFT can be an ultimately rewarding and life-changing experience.
I take a theoretically eclectic orientation based on the needs of my clients, often employing systemic, psychodynamic, cognitive-behavioral, solution-focused, strategic, and interpersonal approaches. I believe in the importance of individual and relational strengths, insight, health, and growth.